The holidays are here and that means time for shopping! Whether or not gift giving is your or your beau’s love language, gifts are always one way to say I love you. And these gifts? They also help you have a more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life.

Mood Setters

Did you know that setting the mood is the number one thing people do to keep their sex life active? This makes sense, since most of what impacts your sex life has nothing to do with sex itself, and instead is about creating the ideal context: low stress, high trust, and high affection. These gifts help you do just that.

Bomb AF Organic Bath Bombs

A lot of of bath products are bad for your vagina. The chemicals, soaps, and artificial fragrances can disrupt your vagina’s natural balance of bacteria, causing irritation and increasing your risk of infection. Thankfully, not all bath bombs are created equally! Bomb AF Organic Bath Bombs are organic, vegan, non-toxic, cruelty-free, and all ingredients are safe for your skin and vagina.

Burn no. 1

Massage candles are one of the best ways to set the mood. Their “wax” is actually massage oil, and they burn at a lower temperature—about the temp of a perfect bath. Made with skin-softening jojoba and lavender oils, this hand-poured aphrodisiac massage candle is blended to set the mood with notes of amber, cedar leaf, lemongrass, tonka bean, and medjool date.


Have you ever said no to oral even though you wanted it? These extra-thin natural-latex panties let you feel all the sensations of oral, while blocking fluids or anything else that’s holding you back from pleasure. Slip on a pair for sensation without hesitation, whether you’re post-workout, on your period, with a new partner, or just tired of your bae’s scratchy facial hair.

Touch by Warm

Many people worry that pausing to grab lube will ruin the moment. Enter: Touch, an automated dispenser that heats and dispenses lubricants and oils with the wave of your hand.  As a bonus, it’s sexy, sleek, and sophisticated design means you can leave it on your nightstand without clueing anyone in.

Sex Toys

Sex toys are one of the best ways to add newness, variety, and playfulness to your sex life. They increase pleasure and satisfaction, especially for people with vulvas, and make it easier to experience orgasm.

Pom by Dame Products

Dame is known for female-focused, non-sex-interrupting toys. Their newest product, Pom, doesn’t disappoint. It’s super flexible, conforming to the palm of your hand so you can stimulate your entire vulva, top to bottom. Or, choose from pinpoint or broad stimulation on your clitoris. Whatever you choose, it’s their most powerful vibe yet so you’ll be sure to enjoy it.

Le Wand Petite

The broad heads of wand vibrators make them perfect for people who don’t love direct clitoral stimulation—and those who love a good back rub. Unfortunately, most wands are heavy and clunky. Enter: Le Wand Petite. It packs the power of a classic wand vibrator into a travel-friendly size (plus a travel lock feature, to avoid TSA mishaps).


Vibrating penis rings are the OG hands-free couple’s toy, and Lovely takes that name seriously. In addition to all the usual benefits–helping the penis-haver stay harder, longer and stimulating the clitoris or scrotum in just the right way—it’s also a wearable (think: Fitbit). It learns what you and your partner(s) enjoy in bed and gives you sexpert suggestions for new positions, stimulation techniques and sex-related ideas.


Ohnut looks a little bit like a penis ring…except it isn’t. It’s a set of rings that slide on the penetrating partner and act as a buffer, allowing couples to control how deeply the vagina is penetrated. Without fear of pain, there’s a new sense of confidence and trust, both of which set the mood for more pleasurable and orgasmic intercourse.

Gift Sets & Boxes

Trying new things together is one key to an intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life that lasts. These gift sets come with lots of fun for everyone, and enough gifts that you’re sure to find one (or more) that’s a perfect fit.

We-Vibe Discover Gift Set

This gift set from Womanizer and We-Vibe is perfect for adventurous and playful couples. It has ten has 10 sexy and fun goodies to delight all your senses. Each is individually packaged so you can explore one at a time or indulge in all on one night—either way, you’re guaranteed a delightful time.

Bawdy Bookworm Get Sleigh’d Box

As someone who loves romance novels for their ability to put sex on your mind and get you in the mood, I was stoked to discover this subscription box-meets-virtual book club! This Christmas-themed box is filled with a steamy romance novel, edible pasties, a luxury vibrator, and more. Christmas not your thing? Take a look at past boxes or grab a subscription to keep the joyous orgasms going all year long.

Bijoux Indiscrets 12 Sexy Days

If you’re looking to dip your toes into the kinkier side of things, this 12 Sexy Days box is perfect. Bijoux is known for their fashion-meets-eroticisim products, and this box doesn’t disappoint. From harnesses to handcuffs, each product is there to help you discover your most sensual side.

The KinkKit

Love the idea of a sex box but feel a little out of your depth in using it? The KinkKit includes not just sexy and fun products but also easy-to-follow games and activities that show you how to use the items in the kit. Each quarterly kit is themed and includes several games, ranging from mild to wild, with different options to make it more or less kinky depending on what you and your beau(s) desire.

Sexy Books

Many womxn experience responsive desire—they only feel in the mood after sexy things start to happen. Keeping sex top of mind helps mitigate this and get you in the mood faster. Plus—it never hurts to learn more about sex!

Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment by August McLaughlin

Blending personal narrative and (s)expert advice, August makes learning about sex fun and empowering. This book feels like you’re chatting over drinks with your bestie…who happens to know a lot about sex. To make the experience ever more fulfilling, pre-order Girl Boner: A Guided Journal to Self Awareness, a weekly companion journal with writing prompts and quotes that walks you through the book’s mix of practical tips, in-depth reporting, and inspired storytelling.

Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex—and the Truths They Reveal by Lux Alpatrum

Have you ever faked an orgasm? Made up a boyfriend to get rid of a creep who won’t go away? Felt bad about doing so? In this controversial look at women, sex, and lying, Lux tackles the topic of seemingly dishonest women. She investigates whether women actually lie, what social situations might encourage deceptions both great and small, and what effect all this dishonesty—real or imagined—has on women’s self image, social status, and safety.

How the Dukes Stole Christmas: A Holiday Anthology

Too busy to get through an entire novel right now? With four delectable short stories, this anthology will put you in the (holiday) mood! From the ballrooms of London, to abandoned Scottish castles, to the snowy streets of Gilded Age New York, this anthology is full of Christmas magic and unforgettable romance…plus a delicious surprise at the end.

Wrong Bed, Right Roommate by Rebecca Brooks

I love celebrating for as long as possible, which is why I love when people pre-order gifts for me. I forget about it and then SURPRISE! It’s hard to think of a better gift to do that with than Rebecca Brooks’ forthcoming novel. The first book in her new Accidental Love series has it all: a take-charge heroine, her best friend’s brother, steamy office sex, and that delicious moment when they finally give in. Rebecca writes some of my favorite sex scenes: you don’t want to miss them.


Trying new things together deepens your intimacy and connection. Gift one of these sexy experiences so you both have a more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life.

Desire, the app

I’m all about using technology to bring us closer together. From bluetooth sex toys to apps like Desire, a game for couples to play and discover new things together. You and your partner send each other dares. These range from romantic, like making breakfast in bed, to sexier, like a quickie in the elevator. There’s more than 70K dares in the app! Each time you complete one, you get points, which unlocks more content.

Couple’s Intimacy Challenge

This couple’s course will help you have a healthier, happier relationship and enhance your intimacy—inside and outside of the bedroom. Over seven weeks you’ll learn informational and educational tools to improve communication and strengthen your bond, and have fun doing so. Bonus! The skills you learn won’t just enhance your romantic relationship, but also can be used  to strengthen your relationships with friends, family, and beyond.

Sex and Relationship Counseling

Contrary to popular belief, sex and relationship counseling isn’t just for couples in crisis. Any couple who craves a deeper connection and more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex, can benefit. Whether sex has always been an issue or just become one; you’ve never felt understood or asking for you want is just so awkward, you know what you want or don’t know where the heck to begin, you can achieve the connection, excitement, and satisfaction you crave—without feeling awkward, twisting yourself into a pretzel, or spending hours a day on intimacy-building activities.

Boudoir Bodypaint Session

Boudoir shoots help you discover the beauty within yourself, and you’ll leave feeling powerful and confident. Never mind the photos you get to share with your beau! What makes these specific sessions unique is that instead of wearing the lingerie, yours is painted on. You’ll leave feeling like a million bucks!

Whether you’re looking to treat yourself this holiday season, surprise your beau with something romantic, or create a more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life, these gifts will help you do just that.

Featured image by Nynne Schrøder

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